Dating physical chemistry

09 May

Some believe we’re attracted to those with the same level of emotional maturity or differentiation of self.

And still others believe that our unconscious, internalized conflicts choose our partners.

In short, the marriage will suffer without this regular bonding and connection.

How Do You Know If You Have Chemistry in a Relationship?

True chemistry is usually apparent immediately or pretty quickly, and only grows more when interacting and spending more time together. I am a licensed clinical psychologist, a licensed marriage & family therapist, and a certified hypnotherapist in private practice in Roseville, CA ( practicing since 1997.

It is important that the man or woman you marry someday be a person you feel notable physical chemistry with. Also, I am happily married in the temple (Manti) since 1996 and have 4 sons.

Some look to biology to explain why we are attracted.

Others believe we unconsciously replicate our attraction to our opposite sex-parent.

If you do not notice any of these feelings or they are very minimal, you more likely just see this person as a friend and probably need to keep looking for another to be in a relationship with.An intimate/sexual relationship is important agent to bond and to stay bonded together in a marriage. Kimball has said, “We know of no directive from the Lord that proper sexual experience between husbands and wives need be limited totally to the procreation of children.” (Ensign, Oct. So, sexual intimacy in marriage is important because not only as an avenue of procreation, but as a powerful agent to regularly reconnect and strengthen marriages.So, when physical attraction is lacking in a marriage, so naturally too will the role of sexual intimacy as well.Other factors matter in relationships as well, such as conversation/communication skills, conflict resolution, listening skills, caring, consideration, empathy, education, spirituality, family background, similar interests, career/money management, parenting style, and so on.From what I have seen as a psychotherapist, the problems come with the extreme opinions on the subject: concluding that physical chemistry matters too much or too little.